"Dare To Dream" was
founded in order to assist those who were in deep trouble both
physically and mentally, after sustaining an on the job injury. It would
prove to be a very demanding yet an enlightening experience. I had no
idea when I started "Dare To
Dream" that so many decent folks
were being treated so badly, by those who would gladly do the dirty work
of an out of control bureaucratic system. A system infested with
insensitivity, mean spirited, and an un-American approach towards
countrymen and women who’s only crime, was that of being seriously
damaged by an on the job injury.
It became brutally apparent to me that any one who suffered an on the
job injury was to be treated as if they were faking it, even after
medical tests proved otherwise! I was there and I was punished, as
was my husband when he broke his back and lost the ability to work. When
a family member becomes disabled the entire family becomes a victim
because of the very nature of what that means, in real terms. But when
you are at the mercy of the Workmen’s Comp System, it gives a whole
new meaning to the word, VICTIM!
Phone calls would come at
I was totally available to anyone at any time, day or night. And it
soon became apparent that I was to get little sleep as the calls started
to come in with a vengeance. I made myself available from 1991 until
1996 and I was able to talk some good folks out of killing themselves.
Most of these types of calls would come at the wee hours of the morning.
Family members, friends’, etc. would call and ask me to intervene with
a loved one. Sometimes that meant going to their home at crazy hours and
spending many hours and sometimes days assisting these good people to
work through their anger and frustration with this bogus system.
Sometimes a call would come and an injured person would ask if they
could come over and talk.
It became clear that I would need to recruit members who would do
what I was doing and thus the "Dare To Dream" concept
took on a life of it's own. I
would teach and inform and guide those injured folks whom I believed had
the strength to assist others through their crisis. And believe me when
I tell you, it was one crisis after another because the abuse coming out
of the system was relentless and pernicious in nature.
It took my husband almost eight years to escape a system designed to
trap you, not with money, but with outrageous punishment if you angered
one of the bureaucratic insiders and or did something they did not want
you to do. Your temporary disability checks, which was far less then
what you were making before the accident, would be held back, sometimes
for months on end. You would be forced to request a hearing before
the benefits would continue.
The more my husband and I assisted folks in acquiring knowledge of
their rights the more we
were punished! I estimate that our benefits were interrupted at
least a dozen times. We were to become unpaid lobbyist and that was a bittersweet
experience, talk about an oxymoron.
As we build the "Dare To Dream Network"
Website we will
share many stories and experiences as we also aide and assist all the
folks we can as they journey through, what I began to call, "The
A Vietnam Vet,
by Workman's Comp System
I was able to talk some folks out of killing those who they blamed
for their additional misery. One was a Vietnam vet who had been a
prisoner of war and was bent on getting justice for the ill treatment he
had been exposed to. I never met this gentleman; the call came at 3 AM
one morning and a soft quiet voice said, "So you think you can help
me"! I did not recognize the voice and in my tired stupor I said, I
could only try! He was about to hang up when I said," Please don’t,
share your pain with me, because I care about you". He became
infuriated and said, ‘You know nothing about me! I said you’re
right, but I want to know what has hurt you so, and maybe I can help, if
we do nothing more that talk a while.
He was so very angry and in a lot of physical pain. You come to know
the breadth and depth of physical pain when you have done this for a
while. He did not want to give me his name and I said that was fine. As
we began to talk he opened up about his Nam experience and how he came
home to a strange, indifferent country and then he had the misfortune to
be injured on the job and now was being called a liar and treated like a
He was going to sit and wait outside of the workplace of the person
who he felt was unworthy and hurt this person. I was able to glean who
this person was as there were some in the system who were notorious for
bringing the worse out of the injured who were very proud. This systems
hit man stood out like a sore thumb. I told my Vietnam friend that I
knew whom he was speaking of and he was baffled and said, How? I told
him I had been doing this for a few years and you come to know the enemy
and I had learned well and had found many ways to put the enemy in his
place. Killing was not an option as then the enemy would win and he is
mourned, and played up by the system, as the injured worker would be
played down as a disgruntled injured worker who was nothing but trouble
from the start.
We talked for many hours and my Nam friend eased up on his anger
and agreed to back off and said, he had decided to leave Nevada and visit
with family that had been wanting him to come home so they could help.
He did leave to be with his family. He did not hurt this person he had
threatened to harm. Several months went by and one day a call came and a
thank you was at the other end from my Vietnam friend. He was well and
on the mend and thanked "Dare To Dream" for being there that
night, as he said, things could have turned out much different had there
not been "Dare To Dream".
Many Stories to Share
There are many stories to share both old and the new, and there is
much work to be done to change abusive laws that serve only the well
healed. Small businesses have an arguable gripe in the scheme of things,
but punishing the worker is not the answer. Corporate America is the
greedy culprit! It is they and their lobbyist who are behind much of
what has adversely affected the working class and small businesses.
The "Dare To Dream"
concept was and is to encourage and help folks find their footing once
again, remembering to hold onto the dreams they had before the
accident/injury, and or to build new dreams and goals to reach for.
We do not try, not is it reasonable and fair to diminish what the
injured are going through. It is real and the abuse by the system
can have far more long range damage when the system plays games with their/your
head. Anger is healthy as long as it is constructively
directed. My mother used to say, "Success
Is The Best Revenge"! And
that is what "Dare To Dream"
will strive for; Sweet Revenge, by creating Success stories through
assisting with information and sharing the laws that apply to each
person according to the State they reside in. Also, by creating a
network of voters/activist who will have a voice in their State and in
We are still growing with our "Internet Family
of Information" but we hope all those who can, will share
whatever they can, to assist "Dare
To Dream" in the quest to keep "The
Dream" alive for all of
God's children. Should you have links that open up doors of
opportunity please let us know. If you have ideas to share bring them
on. Whatever you can offer to the ""Dare
To Dream Network" will be
appreciated and it will be used to the utmost in order to bring,
Hope and Relief to the "Disenfranchised"
- Because -
Dreams Die, So Goes Greatness "